tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15430509.post114781163130669895..comments2023-11-03T09:37:43.870-04:00Comments on AGAINST THE WIND: Swamped/Mom's Saga ContinuesEllie Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03592691217213028495noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15430509.post-1148224010027897712006-05-21T11:06:00.000-04:002006-05-21T11:06:00.000-04:00Ellie, it's ok. Your Mom does understand. I also ...Ellie, it's ok. Your Mom does understand. I also understand the guilt, but there really is no need.<BR/><BR/>Can you sign up for a small local race (5k for example) as an event for the two of you? 30 minutes or so on her own, she can soak up the atmosphere and then you can go for tea, etc, and spend some time together. <BR/><BR/>It's wonderful that she wants to show her support to you, but not in her best interest, or yours.<BR/><BR/>Don't beat yourself up, she's a smart lady. Her desire to be there for you is no doubt clouding her limits. I'm sure when you explained it all to her, she realized this and was relieved.<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you both.Unahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16611881081213242008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15430509.post-1147875131126353482006-05-17T10:12:00.000-04:002006-05-17T10:12:00.000-04:00Ah, Ellie. You know only too well how much I can ...Ah, Ellie. You know only too well how much I can relate to the mom thing. I admit to being grateful I didn't have to figure out which medical or prescription drug plan to choose for my parents. The thought of it was daunting. I admire your courage and fortitude.<BR/><BR/>Do what you can do and leave the rest to God.PuddyRathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03453487420827796415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15430509.post-1147870482791542532006-05-17T08:54:00.000-04:002006-05-17T08:54:00.000-04:00Well maybe a solution for your mom going with you ...Well maybe a solution for your mom going with you is to find something closer that you are planning on doing. As for the financial stuff and everything else, it is an exhausting job. I do it for my dad too, but thankfully he never wants to tag along anywhere with me. The Medicare/insurance stuff is complicated, but the main thing is to just read what they offer for what you pay. Its comparisons. At least your mom/uncle don't expect you to shop around for the best CD rates in town! I'm on that hunt right now. So I understand what you're going through. Part of the reason I'M not doing an IM this year or probably not next either. Not enough energy left to do all that training too.Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12302710072433158197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15430509.post-1147833162499805022006-05-16T22:32:00.000-04:002006-05-16T22:32:00.000-04:00You can only do as much as you can do. I understan...You can only do as much as you can do. <BR/>I understand wishing to be able to do more...but you have to take care of yourself, too.*jeanne*https://www.blogger.com/profile/07786378434413037583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15430509.post-1147831626705655712006-05-16T22:07:00.000-04:002006-05-16T22:07:00.000-04:00Gosh woman..You are in my prayers. I am widowed an...Gosh woman..You are in my prayers. I am widowed and was a care giver to my husband for 15 years. It is difficult to care for someone without it overcoming you. Right choice on the trip...hard one, I know. You create your space...protect that part of your world. It's crucial. You keep riding running, and doing WHAT you can WHEN you can. Maintain everything that makes you, YOU.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01520471672946356649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15430509.post-1147815575695634202006-05-16T17:39:00.000-04:002006-05-16T17:39:00.000-04:00I'm so glad you said NO to Mom! That was the RIGHT...I'm so glad you said NO to Mom! That was the RIGHT answer. The assertive one. Feeling guilty is optional.Nancy Tobyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18402516081283603553noreply@blogger.com